Stages of Change
A life-transition can imply a shift in attitude, behaviour, and identity. Identifying your stage of change and then supporting you through the subsequent ones is a core aim of coaching.
Which "stage of change" are you in?
“I’m not thinking about change”. Maybe you've been not-thinking about it for years, from passivity or lack of awareness. Or it's too hard to even contemplate. No, you're defiant - rationalising the status quo with forceful arguments. But you’re reading this, so your resistance has a chink in it to be explored.
“I’m thinking about it, but...”. You have desire and doubt in equal measure. Ambivalence is a familiar place. You might be a chronic contemplator. Ambivalence is OK, you're at least admitting change is important, perhaps critical. You just need to become confident of your ability to effect it.
“I’m getting ready”. The idea isn't just in your head. You’re maybe talking to others or informing yourself. Your confidence is building about the possibility of change. But preparation can become a method of avoidance - you need to acknowledge the window of opportunity and find the readiness to act.
“I’m changing”. This is wonderful - but nothing is guaranteed. Managing the loss of confidence is key as you're confronted with novel anxieties, uncertainty, or nostalgia for your prior life. You need to maintain clarity and commitment to your your new way of being.
Paraphrased from the Transtheoretical Model of Behaviour Change